Let’s Talk About Love Part 2
Some people find it weird whenever I say that I do not intend to marry in my 20s (or at all, for that matter) or that I have a feeling that I might be single forever. Is the thought really that hard to grasp? I don’t think there’s anything unusual about that, I guess being a Filipino also means that you have to embrace the fact that one day you’re going to marry and spend the rest of your life with your partner and the kids you bore to this world, but to me that’s not the case.
When I was a kid, it was typical, I would draw the dress that I would wear to my and Brad Pitt’s wedding but the dream usually ends there, to the dress I will wear. I’m not the kind who pictured myself being married by the age of 25 or having kids… at all. As I’ve said, I am very willing to lead the life of single-blessedness, where did that came from, I have no idea.
Right now, it is still pretty much the same, waiting but not actually looking, if ever a love comes along, then well and good - for both of us - but if no one’s meant for me then that’s fine and dandy as well. I have always been like this, a cynical lady when love is the subject matter, something that I couldn’t understand since my parents have the perfect love for each other.
Hmm. I think that might be the problem, perfect. Always striving for perfection even when there really isn’t such a thing.
Why have I thought of this? Well, a former co-worker told me that he dreamt about me, that he asked (through chat, of course) how I am, he said I responded with, I am finally happy and that I already have a boyfriend. He said that he is unsure whether it’s a new love or whether Raye and I got back together. I laughed it off saying that I have a feeling that his dream really meant the other way around, that I am not destined for anyone.
Then yesterday, I was talking to another former co-worker when we touched on the love subject, I told him I don’t believe in the dream and that it might be the opposite to which he responded with I shouldn’t talk like that and things to that effect. I told him that I am not really looking for anyone so that only strengthens my resolve about the dream being untrue he told me that I’m weird and that made me laugh.
Hmm. Typical response.
It’s really hard to be a career-oriented woman in this day and age, you would’ve thought that things have changed but it really isn’t changed much.
I’m afraid to get married because the divorce rate is so high. Being single gives people more freedom to grow as an independent person, a right to privacy, a sense of individuality, and the ability to make decisions without compromising or being accountable to others
Hmm. Those words are familiar. I think I’ve said those things before too! hehe. What I mean to say is, we all go through that stage. I even liked the idea that “I’ve had NBSB” too much that I found myself deliberately staying away from guys. wahaha. But when the unexpected lovebug finally bites, we’ve got nothing left to say but… “ouch”.
Haha. walang sense. :))
I guess we should be open to all kinds of possibilities. Whether we’re called to be part of a marriage, or “blessed-singleness” (hehe! my friends and i interchange the sequence of the words as a joke), I believe that only God knows what’s best for us. It may not be what *we* want, but we can be sure that it’s for our good.
I like this entry, mae. It’s honest and straight. I don’t find it weird at all. But I’ll be watching out for the progress of your lovelife ha! malay mo, anjan lng sya tabi-tabi.. waiting for the right moment. hehehe! or kung wala mn, then that’s fine too. :)
hmm. nobela na to ah. haha. sensya.
haha..i already heard this from you and i already told you what i think and feel about this. Maybe we have a different points of view. I love to be married and have kids and dream of a perfect relationship with my hubby. What you’ve said might be weird to anyone(it is weird for me when i heard this from you for the first time) but people should understand that everyone of us do have different opinions and views in life. Just don’t close door when someone knock’s on it. Give them opportunity to let you feel how special you are to them. And i know theres a person whose special to you. All of us do, it is just on a different level of it. You’re beautiful inside and out. Take care. Misyah.
Life shouldn’t be treated as a routine or program syntax where “if age is less than 30 then do not get married else i will be a failure”.
There’s a reason why that thing above our neck is there, to assess and make an informed decision on every encountered situation. Another thing that compliments that part of our body is that thing called heart. But then again, that’s just my 2 cents on matter.
There are more things that you can automate and treat as a routine, i.e. “if time equals 8:00AM then brush my teeth else gargle at least”.
There is time for everything.
you can never say what might future brings right? don’t make things go so easily like mark said “there is time for everything.”
By the Way hey..am i the person who said that your weird..?? hehehe maybe i said things like that bcoz your done saying things for your future life. Just you wait and see maybe he might come suprisingly, eventhough you had just break up with your boyfrend do you think it is the end for you.Definitely NO!
Just keep up the things you’d like to do…maybe this is your chance to spend your life with your other love ones like family,friends,etc..for the mean time maybe just think of some things that you can find yourself to be more interesting for your life before thinking on having commitment or relationships again…
(naks naiintndhan m b? prang ako nde eh…lolz xenxa) cheers meme!!
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