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No two people will ever agree on something specially if they have very different beliefs, ideals and causes that they are fighting for. That is unless one of them will be matured enough to do the right thing and that is to accept that they will never agree on the subject matter and let go.

Respect - yes we’re aware of it, we know the meaning, we know how to show it. But have we really grasped the very essence of the word? I think not. In this day and age where people are so used to play with words, say something but mean another, isn’t it ironic that we are not able practice and/or get what respect truly means?

In this light, a former classmate, and a dear friend, in college comes to mind. He was our class president then, I never voted for him because I found him arrogant, proud, smart ass, a show off and rude. An, unfortunately, I am kinda right on all of them, don’t get me wrong I still love him (not the romantic kind of course) aside from that fact, it’s because he still is a sweet and caring guy underneath it all. He has a very commanding presence, one shout and we’re all ears. But did we respect him? I don’t think so. My classmates would make fun of him and talk about him behind his back.

The reason? I just said that a while ago, he shouts at us just to be heard. He asks, no make that commands, respect from us but he shouts at the very people he asks respect from.

He had to stop for two years because of some family problems, he became very close to God during those two years, but when he came back, we saw that he still has not changed.

He is the kind of guy who is very passionate of his beliefs to the point that there are times when he becomes blind to the beliefs of others. He so wanted us to believe in his visions that it, most of the time, results to very heated arguments. He wants one thing and we want another. The argument would go on and on, it would get personal sometimes, pointing finger at one another, putting blame, and we would make sumbatan thus making our ties being severed. That is until one of us shuts up, goes somewhere to cool off and think about things.

It is hard to bear, specially if you know them both and understood where they are coming from. It is hard to be able to get their points but they themselves couldn’t understand each other.

As I’ve said,I love him to pieces and miss him right now, I respect the fact that we’re two different individuals with different mindsets. But do I respect him as a person? Maybe not much, respect after all is earned and not given.

You see, sometimes we get so caught up with what’s going on with out lives that we have to pause and look at ourselves from the outside before we would finally see what these things are doing to us. If we would only try to put ourselves in one another’s shoes then maybe we’d realize how wrong we are and then maybe we would be able to finally start meeting each other eye to eye.

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Just an afterthought:

With all of what happened in the recently concluded PBA, I find this ironic: bloggers are supposed to be using their blogs for communication purposes but there are misunderstandings caused by miscommunication. hehe, La lang… just noticed it. :)